Children develop problem-solving skills at different rates, but it is helpful to know what reasonable expectations are. Keep in mind that many factors will influence children’s development, and that it is not uncommon for children to fall back or jump forward a stage. If your child has recently experienced a sudden change or had a stressful experience, you might expect him or her to cope by moving back a level or two.  

In general, an “average” pre-k or kindergarten student learns what appropriate behavior in different settings is, follows adult directions by repeating the directions while completing the task, and solves problems by giving directions or making requests (for example, “It’s my turn.”)  

A first or second grade student starts to think through solutions and thinks out loud in stressful situations. A student in grades three and four begins to solve problems in a way that meets several people’s needs. They use persuasion, trading and taking turns in solving problems.  

A fifth grader works well with others to solve problems and meet individual needs. They focus more on maintaining good relations.